But yet you will beat the hell out of my body from the inside out. You will grab my heart with your cold hand and squeeze as hard as you can. You stomped all over me without a second thought. None of these things leaves marks, and thus, not evident to the human eye. How …
What does gaslighting feel like? And a gaslighting song
Gaslighting I had never heard the term “gaslighting” before learning of my husband’s affair. In the days following D-day, I scoured the internet to find…I don’t know what exactly. Any info, any similar stories, how people coped with infidelity, etc. One word that kept showing up in just about everything I read was “gaslighting”. What is …
His mistress didn’t know he loved me
My husband and I had a conversation the other day and I asked if his mistress knew he loved me. He thought about it and said, “No”. It cut like a knife to hear him say that. Why does it matter to me? For four years, while he was seeing the other woman, he never …
The Broken Pedestal
The Broken Pedestal Throughout our marriage, my husband had always placed me on the proverbial pedestal. He loved and worshipped me, and made it very well known to everyone. Heck, even without saying a word, it was apparent that he absolutely adored me, just by the way he would look at me. My mother often …
Burning questions you might have about the Other Woman (or Man)
The Other Woman Maybe “yours” isn’t the right term, but the woman or man that your husband (or wife) had their affair with. I wonder if their personalities are similar, or if only a few are slightly psycho. It is only natural to want to know about the woman who your husband chose to have …
The Importance of Answering Questions After an Affair
Lies, lies, lies yeah. Remember that song from the 80’s? That song often goes through my head often. My head feels like a jar full of sand, with each grain representing a question. If you are the WS, you will be answering many questions after your affair. There are millions of questions that need answering …